When you look at these photos what do you see? And what do you think? (Keep it clean!)
(Image courtesy of Google)
I see beautiful women who look pretty perfect, and that’s it. I don’t think to myself ‘I wonder why neither of them has children’, mainly because I have better things to think about, but also because it’s never crossed my mind.
Thanks to well-known celebs like Tyra Banks and Chrissy Teigen (that’s them in the photos above), the truth about fertility struggles are getting more press coverage. More importantly however, both ladies voiced their frustration at constantly being questioned and judged as to why they didn’t ‘yet’ have children. People who don’t even know them seem to have taken the decision that they should be made to answer for their lack of offspring.
When was it decided that women should explain their personal choices to anyone and everyone? I must have missed that memo.
I have to say that since my late 20s I’ve been questioned as to when I will have children. But why is that OK? When did that become a ‘water cooler’ topic of conversation? Why not ask me what my career prospects are? Can women in their late 20s and early 30s not have one of those?
More than the constant questioning, what annoys me the most is that those who ask these meddling questions have NO IDEA whether I can have children or not, and it is NONE of their business. Why do I end up feeling bad because I haven’t yet produced a mini me? If you’ve read my blog before, you’ll know I recently suffered a miscarriage. A lot of people I work with don’t know about that, even friends don’t know, and let’s be honest, it’s none of their business. Sorry to sound like a parrot, but it really isn’t.
So, I make a plea. Please stop asking women about their fertility. Stop judging them based on your opinions and beliefs. We are all dealing with internal battles, possibly even heartache, so please treat everyone as you would want to be treated.