Happy Monday everyone! Hope you all had a good weekend.
I’m very excited to share with you an article I wrote for Fertility Chef on PCOS and self-esteem. Self-esteem is something I have struggled with for as long as I can remember, and still do most of the time. However, it is slowly starting to improve, to the point that on some days I actually feel good about myself. Granted, it doesn’t tend to last long, but believe me this is a major breakthrough.
As you know, I am pretty hard on myself almost all of the time, and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
I find it almost excruciating to say positive things about myself, cannot accept compliments without turning bright red and feeling instantly uncomfortable, and would rather hide away than be the centre of attention. However, these negatives are beginning to be replaced by less negative thoughts and feelings. It’s not an overnight thing unfortunately, but as I seem to keep learning and re-learning, it’s all a process, and they take time.
As I said above, I know I’m not the only one who struggles to think positively about themselves. Why do some people find it so much harder than others to see the positives, to see what others see? Is it a confidence thing? Or something else? Something deep rooted? Why do we let it take precedence in our heads and our lives?
If we can come to the conclusion that we are too hard on ourselves, can we then do something to change it? Are self-esteem and self-belief linked? Can you not have one without the other? Let’s assume you can’t. How do we make ourselves see the positives within, and bring them out?
I know I include a fair few ‘motivational’ quotes in my posts, but I find them really useful. Sometimes they say what I struggle to, like right now. It’s not easy to believe in yourself, especially if it’s something you don’t usually do. However, as much as ‘self-deprecating’ behaviour can feel like second nature, it does have a negative effect that can be long-standing.
It’s time to break the routine and start being kind to ourselves. It’s amazing the difference it can make. I promise to try, if you do.